TERRIBLE REASONS PEOPLE GET MARRIED

There are plenty of good and romantic reasons people get married, but there are also some terrible reasons to get married. I’m not judging people; I just want their marriage to be as successful and happy as possible! And I’m not going to judge you, but I suggest you to take a close look at your feelings and current situation, and then compare them with my list. Here are some terrible reasons people get married.

1. For money

Getting married for money is one of the most terrible reasons why people get married. I know, marriage is deeper than romantic love and selecting a partner with the same financial habits and goals is actually a great idea. But marrying for financial stability is a really bad idea, ethically, morally, and statistically.

2. For the children

This may seem for the moment that marrying the father of your child, especially if you had your child out of wedlock, is a great idea, but this is actually one of the terrible reasons to get married. I’m not saying that the man may not make a good father, but he may not be a good husband. If you think that the marriage can make him into a good husband or father, unfortunately, it won’t.

3. To please the family

The first time I married to please my husband’s family. His parents pressured us to get married because they thought it’d settle his son down. But it was a total misery! Making major life decisions with the purpose of pleasing other people means putting your own happiness and interests on the back burner. And this is a terrible reason why people get married!

4. Rush into marriage

You might think that it’s time for you to get married and have the children, but this is another worst reason to get married. Man is more than a potential sperm bank! Think of your man as a partner, as the father of your child, and as your husband once your child is grown. If your man doesn’t fit this formula, then you might be rushing into marriage for the terrible reasons.

5. For the dream wedding

You might be planning your dream wedding since childhood, and you want to have your wedding as fast as possible, but do you think about your married life and the future? It’s no good if you spend so much time daydreaming about the glittery head-piece you’ll wear, and the invitations you’ll send. Maybe you want the wedding more than the marriage.

6. You are lonely

Even if you’re lonely and desperate, you think that you are meant and destined to live alone forever, it’s not a reason to marry a man you don’t love just because you are afraid to be alone. I agree, companionship is very important, but just imagine how sorrowful it would be to meet the man of your dreams after you are already married.

7. You think he might settle down

If you think that your man will settle down and change once you are married, think once again. Everybody makes some practical changes when they are married, but often their personalities and habits don’t, no matter how much you wish they would. If you marry man hoping he will change, it will be a set-up for disillusionment.

These are some bad reasons to get married that will make the marriage most likely to burn and crash. However, we should remember that every relationship is different. Everybody dreams about happy marriage that will last forever. Which of these reasons puts you off the idea of marriage? Do you know other worst reasons to add to my list? Share your thoughts, please!

UNDENIABLE REASONS YOU SHOULDN’T MARRY HER

Getting married is a big deal. You want to make sure that you’re marrying the right person before you take the leap. Before you decide to get married there are some important points to consider. Below are 5 reasons you might decide against marrying your girlfriend. But remember, it’s a hard decision to take. Take a bit more time to think it over.

1. She wants to be taken care of financially

We’re long out of the 1950s and women are generally not looking for men who will support them financially anymore, but now and then you’ll come across one. If she works before you’re married and plans to quit working and stay home after marriage, you have to consider if this works for you. Once children come along it’s a different story, but when you have no children you might not want to be the only one working and bringing in money. If this isn’t something you’re into, she’s probably not the woman for you.

2. She doesn’t support boy’s nights out

It’s important that you don’t stop going out with the boys when you start dating someone. If the woman you’re dating insists that you stop going out with the boys once a week or once a month, you should not marry her. She might believe that boys only get into trouble together or she might not like your friends, but whatever her reason, it’s not up to her to decide who you hang with. Your girlfriend or future wife should not keep you on a short leash.

3. She has no friends of her own

Everyone needs at least one friend they hang out with or talk on the phone with. If your girlfriend doesn’t have any friends of her own, she may cling to you more often than someone with friends. It’s not a good idea to get into marriage with a woman who already has no friends. The chances of her making friends after she gets into the routine and comfort of marriage is much less likely. You don’t want to be married to someone who depends on your for all of their social interaction. This will get very tiresome after a while, as you will want time to yourself every now and then as well as time with your friends. No couple should spend all of their time with only each other.

4. You’ve only known her a few months

While it’s exciting to think that you might meet the love of your life, have a whirlwind romance, and marry all within a matter of weeks, that’s not usually how relationships go. If you do meet the love of your life, there is no reason to rush into marriage. It’s important that you date for at least a year so that you can see each other through all seasons, holidays, and family functions. You don’t want to leave anything to chance. You want to see if you’re compatible and able to compromise with each other and with each other’s families.

5. Your relationship is one-sided

If in your relationship you seem to be doing all of the work, you have a one-sided relationship. It’s important that both people in a relationship do their part. It’s not fair for one person to work a full-time job and then comes home and does more work while the other person goes out and enjoys herself or simply does nothing all day. Relationships need to be 50/50. Make sure that you’re not taking on more than your fair share. If you’re always the one doing special things for your girlfriend while she doesn’t seem to think twice about you, this probably isn’t the woman you should marry.

Before you marry someone you want to think long and hard about the person they are today. People don’t often get better after marriage. What you see today is probably the best it’s going to get. Marriage makes people much more comfortable, but that’s not always a positive thing. Are you ready to marry your girlfriend?